Victoria Telfer-Smith BSc (Hons). Counselling & Hypnobirthing
in Loughborough, near Leicester

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Does it work......?

You may feel that hypnosis could not work with something as delicate and complex and conception. The apparatus for conception is far away from our mind and that is where hypnosis happens, isn't it?

Well, I have evidence in the form of a book called; It's conceivable! Hypnosis for Fertility by Lynsi Weastburn she runs a practice in Colorado USA and is very successful! Lots of her clients come to see her about having a baby, they have a session and have a baby! She actually has a picture on the back cover of a child, who was conceived after one session of hypnosis and the usual preliminary first session too! How good is that, not good but great!

The mind body connection is something we explore in hypnosis sessions and then it is incorporated into your session. I cam always help, I cannot guarantee a baby but I can help you to achieve the right mind body connection so you have the best chance possible to get pregnant.

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IVF Postcode Lottery

This is a thing, your ivf treatment on the NHS may be governed by where you live. There are a number of hoops to jump through, age, weight, natural tries, general health and where you live. This is because each NHS group has a CCG (Clinical commissioning group) who work out where the money goes and the allocation for each amount to each department.

This means that Doctors are frequently giving couples the news that they may have to go private to have ivf treatment, and that can cost £4000. Some areas have had the service removed altogether, whilst in Scotland they offer 3 cycles to each couple.

Unfortunately, fertility is not top of the list, in fact having children is seen as a choice, rather than a human right. (cited in Sunday Times Magazine 2.12.18 from This is going to hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor by Adam Kay)

We know this is not the case, being denied the chance to have a baby is devastating and can take people as far as suicide.

When you know this, you can prepare what you need to do, you can visit for information and to sign their petition.

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Can you get pregnant?

Are you having a period every month and not a blue line?

This can be really devastating if you want to have a baby. Each time you go to the toilet around your period you may feel anxiety as you get ready to go, there is a little moment when you can feel the excitement of being pregnant, no blood stain. Every time you pull your pants down to go you could get anxious and a dark black feeling or the anticipation of a light airy pastel feeling.

Has your period arrived, with the last chance you have this month of conceiving gone,......or not?

As you know, there are only 12 times in a year you can try, time passes by quickly when all you want is a baby. Each well meaning friend or relative asking "is it now....when then?", "Not yet, you can get that checked out, you know!" feels just that little bit extra devastating and humiliating. The embarrassment of still having a flat tummy can be overwhelming and all you see are pregnant women.

These feelings are normal when facing the stress of not conceiving as quickly as you want to. Hypnosis can help with stress, but more importantly it can help with getting pregnant or IVF treatment.

I want to help you to conceive and have a baby, I am fully qualified and certified in Hypnosis treatment for Fertility. We can work out a plan to suit your needs and explore what we can do to assist.

Your Doctor can refer you for tests to find out if the problem is medical after trying unsuccessfully for 2 years, but in the meantime get in touch for a consultation, telephone for free.


Click here for an informative article about hypnosis and infertility. It is about one woman's journey through IVF after a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. This can be a devastating diagnosis because it can leave a feeling of isolation and a disconnection from ourselves. Infertility can lead to feelings of isolation before any diagnosis is given, with an actual reason it can give meaning and a strategy to work with.

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C-section and confidence

The blog post below talks about a couples pregnancy, IVF pregnancy and, consequent births, both C-section. I felt a pang as he talked about their experience of C-section, something which I personally dreaded, and felt so sad that their first thought was the C-Section could have impacted upon their further fertility. They had been diagnosed with unexplained problems at their second pregnancy attempt and had IVF.
It is an American couple, so he talks of Insurance Companies, but I wanted to talk about the C-section. She had this because Labour failed, a common reason for C-section, and the baby's heart rate dropped. However, when delivered the baby was healthy.
Before she started Labour, she was induced; a nurse made a comment to them because they saw a younger mum being attended to first, about older mothers and nature being happier with teenage or young mothers, she was 35 years old.
I could not help but wonder if this had an impact on how she felt when she was giving birth, sometimes caregivers can make clumsy mistakes that can impact on our ability and confidence. If we feel inferior, embarrassed, wrong our brain can interpret this as not a good time to give birth and we may experience difficulties. Having support and encouragement during birth is so important, even having the wrong size gown for the operating room can have an impact.

To read the article click here.

Why do we have problems with fertility.......

More women are having babies later in life
Switch to non-barrier methods of contraception
Body Weight/Obesity
Tight underwear
Prescribed drug use
Recreational drug use

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Fertility treatment

I am a qualified Fertility Practitioner which means that I can help with difficulties you may experience with becoming pregnant. Even the words that are used to describe your situation can feel overwhelming, like infertility.

Well meaning friends and family can become an irritant, which is not what they intend, but when you are in the depths of trying to get pregnant all else becomes irrelevant.

Hypnosis can help, it has a scientifically proven record with conception. Domar (2000) had three groups of women all trying to conceive for two years without success. CBT = 56, Support = 65, Routine care = 63.
The CBT and Support was interventions of therapy, relaxation, cognitive restructuring, nutrition/diet, updta on treatments, discussions on feelings, impact of fertility issues on relationships. The routine care was the usual care.
Viable pregnancy at 1 year; CBT 55%, Support 54%, Routine 20%.
If you have trouble with the scientific jargon, basically it states that within a year of trying to get pregnant the women on the CBT and Support groups had a 55% rate of success and were pregnant!

Having therapy improved the chances of becoming pregnant, that is very important to remember.

Goals for therapy

- Pursuing fertility treatment without feeling as if your life and body have been taken over
- Talking to partner calmly and rationally so that you can make decisions that are best for both of you
- Reduce stress so enhancing chance of conceiving either naturally or with ART
- Identifying and eliminating any subconscious blocks to conceiving
- Feel like you have a life outside of fertility issues
- Regain sense of control over your life

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. Friedrich Nietzsche

Fertility affects both men and women, there can be clear diagnosis with medical treatment available or no diagnosis and a clear bill of health issued. However, you know there is something not quite right because you are trying and wanting to get pregnant but cannot.

If you have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years using no contraception you are considered sub-fertile, and if you have been diagnosed as infertile you could also be diagnosed with unexplained infertility. A diagnosis of infertility is not the same as being sterile, infertility is used to describe reduced fertility.

There is a lot of confusing language to deal with.

More scientific evidence!

Hypnosis Increases Natural Conception by over 50%
Infertile women utilizing mind/body techniques such as hypnosis have a 42 – 55% conception rate as compared to 20% with in vitro fertilization (IVF).
The Journal of the American Medical Women’s Association 1999 and The Journal of Fertility and Sterility 2000

Hypnosis and natural conception.
Hypnosis based on imagery and a relaxation strategy was successful in facilitating pregnancy. The treatment was considered to have resulted in beneficial modification of attitude, optimism, and mind-body interaction.
The American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis. (Volume 38, Issue 1, 1995, 22-26): Hypnosis in the Treatment of Functional Infertility.

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IVF Treatment

This is an interesting piece of research, it does not use hypnosis or therapy, but prayer. Why am I adding it you may wonder, prayer is a solitary activity and I do not offer spiritual guidance. However, becoming focused is part of prayer and hypnosis, these women were praying and becoming more focused on IVF treatment working, they also knew that others were praying for them.
Cha et al. (2001) IVF in Korea.
Intercessory Prayer = 100 No prayer = 99 (intercessory prayer is others praying on your behalf)
The women were using IVF and the results were significant;
Pregnancy rates for Intercessory prayer group 50%, for no prayer group 20%!
This is a fascinating study, which you can find for yourself, or I can assist. It not only demonstrates IVF success, but the significant difference a lack of support and others cheering for your success can have an effect, which is not getting pregnant!

I will be offering IVF treatment which will include a 6 session package.

This will include;

1 session for consultation and pre-cycle.
2 session during down-regulation
3 session during egg stimulation
4 session immediately after transfer
5 session during the two week waiting phase
6 session after the result of the cycle

More sessions can be added on an ad hoc basis, if required.

This is a preliminary idea of what I will offer, prices and more information will follow.

Hypnosis Doubles IVF rate
The study of 185 woman found that 28% of the women who were hypnotized for the IVF treatment became pregnant, compared to 14% of the women in the control group. Professor Levitas studied the effects of hypnosis for the IVF treatment and embryo transfer only, because prior studies that demonstrated the stress of the procedure created small contractions of the uterus that prevented the successful implantation of the fertilized egg. The professor indicated that tranquilizers had been used in prior studies, but nothing worked as well as hypnosis.

From August 24, 2004.

IVF patients should be offered hypnosis
As mind/body programs are effective for reducing negative emotions that may impair IVF success, patients should be offered such a program in conjunction with IVF. Fertility and Sterility Journal.1998, vol. 69.

Hypnosis beneficial to IVF procedures
Hypnosis as an adjunct to IVF procedures could be beneficial to those who are unable to conceive naturally.
Australian Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. (Vol. 31, No. 2, 2003, 121-127): Recipe for a Miracle: Determination, Optimism, Medical Technology, and Hypnosis in IVF

So that is the science bit, now for how you can do it. Hypnosis relaxes you, it will allow you higher no thinking brain to work and take control. This is the part of your brain that knows what to do when an egg is implanted. Hypnosis will allow you not to hinder your bodies natural process with anxieties.
When you become a full participant in the hypnosis process, you will know what will serve you best. Your work in the process is vital.

Always, please check back to these pages for more information.

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Forums on fertility and IVF

These can be good and bad! It is the choice you make for yourself.

Here are some of the terms used in them, in-case you didn't know and how would you until you go in!

OPK - ovulation predictor kit

DPO - days past ovulaiton

BFP - best for pregnancy

DTD - do the deed (have sex!)

A childless future......

When we are faced with a situation that is out of our control, we often feel like we have to 'put up or shut up!'

This form of thinking can be hard to deal with, it leaves us feeling silenced, by ourselves, and shutdown which is a form of suppression.
This can stop us in our tracks so we feel unable to continue our life with happiness and comfort, or see a future with them in it. We start to ignore our sad and devastated feelings and, also, any joy or happiness we have.
By acknowledging our grief and sadness we can forgive ourselves and allow a future to seem possible, with happiness and comfort in it.

Please check back for information and help on offer.

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